dating danger sense, cont’d
In October I had a one-night stand with a guy and was about to go back for more, and then he starts telling me about “BDSM protocols” and how I should shave and what kind of cologne to use and that he’s calling me “boy” whether I like it or not. And I’m all, y’know, maybe he’s too controlling!
After agonizing over it for a while, I tell him I don’t want seconds. He blows up on me, spending hours saying that I’m perpetuating monogamist societal oppression and ageism and sex-negativity and kink-shaming and yada yada yada.
Finally he says, “You have some nerve coming crawling to me, begging for permission to break up with me.”
I’m glad I resisted his SJ guilt trip long enough for him to show his true colors so blatantly. People who think others need their permission not to screw them are dangerous, ideology be fucked.